“This is Beyond My Capabilities” posted on: 03-15-2016

respite careFamily caregivers, you may feel at times like the gravitational center of your family’s universe, caring for the many and varied needs of elderly parents, teenagers, a spouse, a career, pets, a home (or two!)…the list is exhaustive, and the accompanying feelings can be equally exhausting. Let’s face it: it’s hard – no, it’s impossible – to do it all and to be everything to everyone.

If you find yourself experiencing the following symptoms of emotional overload, it may be time to accept some much-needed respite care, rather than continuing to shoulder the burden alone:

  1. Anxiety: Feelings of concern or worry are common when providing care for an aging parent, particularly when faced with the unknown and situations that are out of our control.
  2. Guilt: “Am I doing enough? Is there more I should be doing? How can I think of myself when Mom and the kids need me?”
  3. Anger: Anger can quickly manifest from fear and anxiety, and can sometimes be misdirected onto a loved one – resulting in more feelings of guilt and anxiety…a vicious circle.
  4. Grief: As a loved one ages, a sense of loss for the person who once was can be powerful. And watching a loved one continue to decline only exacerbates the feelings.

It’s so important for family caregivers to know that this stage of life as a “sandwich generation” caregiver does not have to be – nor, should it be – a solo journey. Accepting help does not mean failure or ineptitude. Partnering with a trusted senior home care agency is one of the best ways to maintain a healthy life balance. Call on North River Home Care in the Boston area, Cape Cod and South Shore for compassionate senior care; we understand where you are and are here for you every step of the way!